Farmington, CT (July 7, 2017) – Create a life that is less stressful and more healthful at both home and at work by using the power of positive self-talk.
Self-talk is just what it sounds like – talking to yourself. Self-talk is your inner voice. It is the hundreds of comments that we think or say to ourselves as the day goes on and it can have an impactful effect on your confidence. For example, “How could I have been so stupid?” or “I think I’m getting better at this.”
These are examples of two separate types of self-talk. The first comment shows negative or destructive self-talk. These self-defeating comments can work against you and be harmful to your confidence. The last comment is an example of constructive or positive self-talk.
Try it out. Listen to yourself. Are you thinking positively? By doing so, you can increase the chances of a can-do attitude and decrease the sense of being overwhelmed or stressed.
Positive thinking can help you in many ways. By looking at a stressful situation and examining it calmly, you can cheer yourself on by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation. When you endure less stress, you are more likely to avoid illness. Excess or sustained stress seems to decrease the effectiveness of our immune systems, leading to a greater chance of illness or a more difficult time fighting it. You will also feel more in control of your life and your personal goals.
How can you shift the direction of your thinking?
Listen to yourself.
Spend a week keeping track of the negative comments you make to yourself. Ask yourself some questions like “Was I taking that too seriously?” or “Was I expecting too much of myself?” Can you see a pattern of when you use negative self-talk? Very often, negative talk is based on some type of fear – of the unknown, of failure, judgment, etc.
Shift to the positive.
Once you are aware of your negative thoughts, begin turning them into positive ones. You may not believe yourself at first, but with practice, it will soon become second nature.
Make a list.
Gather a list of positive phrases to fall back on. Short “I” statements that express a positive point of view work best. For example, instead of saying “I will not be nervous” choose “I will be calm.” This will train your mind to always think in terms of the positive. Repeat the phrases mentally several times a day. It may take some time to make positive self-talk part of your routine but once you do, it may give you a whole new outlook.